Help me find blogs/books/articles that will make me feel better about being an outspoken lady. I'm a lady in my mid 30's who looks a bit like a kindly kindergarten teacher, but I'm really super outspoken, have lots of opinions and don't suffer fools lightly. I do all this typically with a smile, laugh and wink - as well as the occasionally light chiding and sarcasm, so most of the time I don't rub people the wrong way. Periodically though I run into older men (always white) who get really outraged that I'm not subservient, demure etc. And when I challenge them they become absolutely outraged. I think they are particularly outraged because I look like a kindly elementary teacher and I'm just not stepping down.
Most recently this resulted in a guy who I had a 'confrontation' with (his initiation and escalation) to head to his 20k followers on twitter to blast me. To give you an idea of how 'important' I am it's taken me three years to get to 700 followers - so like, I'm pretty insignificant. I honestly can't figure out why he would care about me, and all I was saying over and over again, was 'I don't agree with you'. (Really, I promise that's all).
So, I'm human and feel bad when people get mad at me - but realize that I am who I am and I'm not going to ever step down from a challenge, even from a 'really important' man. Are there any blogs/articles/books out there for ladies like me? Hopefully something that is less 'women getting screwed' and more people being like 'it's ok to challenge the patriarchy, mama.'
FWIW, I don't really need advice of how to manage these interactions or how to avoid them.
Most recently this resulted in a guy who I had a 'confrontation' with (his initiation and escalation) to head to his 20k followers on twitter to blast me. To give you an idea of how 'important' I am it's taken me three years to get to 700 followers - so like, I'm pretty insignificant. I honestly can't figure out why he would care about me, and all I was saying over and over again, was 'I don't agree with you'. (Really, I promise that's all).
So, I'm human and feel bad when people get mad at me - but realize that I am who I am and I'm not going to ever step down from a challenge, even from a 'really important' man. Are there any blogs/articles/books out there for ladies like me? Hopefully something that is less 'women getting screwed' and more people being like 'it's ok to challenge the patriarchy, mama.'
FWIW, I don't really need advice of how to manage these interactions or how to avoid them.
